Glossary

A sexual position where two partners simultaneously perform oral sex on each other.

A BDSM relationship where roles are maintained around the clock.

An erogenous zone located deep inside the vagina, also known as the anterior fornix.

Sexual attraction to people with impaired mobility.

Role-playing scenario involving being kidnapped or abducted.

Role-playing a scenario where one partner is “abducted” by the other.

Sensation play that involves scraping or scratching the skin.

Arousal from hairless genitals.

Sexual attraction to amputees.

Arousal from exposure to the sun’s rays.

A fetish involving role-playing as a baby, including wearing diapers.

A relationship involving one partner breastfeeding the other.

The time and care given to partners after an intense BDSM scene or activity.

Role-playing where one or both participants act as if they are a different age.

A psychological state where an adult reverts to a younger state of mind.

Arousal from individuals with albinism.

Arousal from experiencing or inflicting pain.

Role-playing scenarios involving being abducted by extraterrestrials.

A fetish for people with missing limbs.

Role-playing scenarios involving amputees.

A string of beads designed for anal insertion, providing sensation when removed.

A metal hook designed to be inserted into the anus, often used in bondage.

Erotic play involving the anus.

Sexual activity involving penetration of the anus.

Sexual arousal from wind or being blown by air.

Oral stimulation of the anus.

Role-playing where one or both participants act as animals.

Acting as animals during sexual activities.

A fetish involving fantasies of transforming into an animal.

Restraints used to bind the ankles.

A bondage position where the ankles are tied to the thighs, creating a frog-like position.

The inability to achieve orgasm despite adequate stimulation.

A fetish for flowers and plants.

Arousal from the desire to amputate a healthy limb.

Arousal from exposing oneself.

Arousal from armpits.

A fetish for licking or kissing armpits.

The act of restricting air flow for erotic purposes.

Arousal from restriction of breathing.

Arousal from worshipping the buttocks.

Arousal from certain smells.

Sexual arousal from being on stage or on camera.

Arousal from the thought of being a man (typically in individuals assigned female at birth).

Arousal from the idea of performing oral sex on oneself.

The practice of inducing asphyxia for sexual arousal.

Sexual arousal and satisfaction derived from self-stimulation.

Arousal from the thought of being a woman (typically in individuals assigned male at birth).

Arousal from imagining oneself as a plush or stuffed animal.

A person who is primarily attracted to themselves.

A type of gag with a ball that fits in the mouth, restricting speech.

The practice of elongating the scrotum using weights or rings.

A fetish for balloons, including popping them or being surrounded by them.

A fetish for inflating and popping balloons.

Sexual intercourse without using a condom.

Engaging in sexual activity without the use of condoms.

The practice of beating the soles of the feet.

Arousal from bathing or showering with a partner.

Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism.

A term in the gay community for a large, hairy man.

Arousal from beards and facial hair.

Sexual attraction to animals.

Hitting or striking a partner as part of BDSM play.

Restraints that are attached to the bed to restrict a person’s movement.

The act of a submissive verbally pleading for something.

Small balls inserted into the vagina for sexual stimulation and pelvic floor strengthening.

Arousal from consensually acting out rape fantasies.

A device used to cover the eyes and block vision.

Using a blindfold to restrict a person’s vision.

Oral stimulation of the penis.

A gag designed with an opening to facilitate oral sex.

Arousal from inflating body parts or the whole body.

Adoring and worshipping a partner’s body parts.

The practice of physically restraining a partner.

A specially designed chair with built-in restraints.

Tape designed to adhere to itself but not to the skin.

The act of adoring and worshipping boots, often by kissing or licking them.

The act of cleaning, polishing, and caring for leather boots, often as a form of service.

The person receiving the action in a BDSM scene.

The act of marking the skin with a hot iron or other means.

Tying ropes or other restraints around the breasts for erotic purposes.

Arousal from using breast pumps.

Inflicting pain or discomfort on the breasts.

Another term for breath play, involving the restriction of breath.

Erotic asphyxiation, where breathing is controlled or restricted.

The practice of intentionally seeking to contract a sexually transmitted infection.

A sexual activity where multiple men ejaculate on one person.

A fetish for schoolgirl uniforms and often used underwear.

A sex toy designed to be inserted into the anus.

A light, fluttering kiss using the eyelashes.

A bondage position where the legs are spread and restrained.

A fetish for admiring and worshipping buttocks.

A sex toy designed to be inserted into the anus.

Dripping melted candle wax onto the skin for erotic sensation.

Striking with a cane, typically a rattan or bamboo rod.

A fetish for plaster casts on limbs.

A multi-tailed whip used in BDSM.

The use of catheters for erotic stimulation or control.

Using a cattle prod to deliver electric shocks for erotic stimulation.

A fetish for playing with or eating caviar in sexual contexts.

Cock and Ball Torture, erotic torture of the male genitals.

Inflicting pain or discomfort on the male genitals.

Using chains as restraints in bondage play.

The practice of refraining from sexual intercourse or orgasms, often enforced by a device.

A device used to prevent sexual intercourse or masturbation.

Devices used to prevent sexual release.

The person who holds the key to a chastity device, controlling access.

The practice of restricting sexual release using a chastity device.

The use of chemicals to create sensations on the skin.

The act of compressing the neck to restrict airflow for erotic purposes.

Using clamps on body parts, such as nipples or genitals.

Arousal from being in confined spaces.

A fetish where the male remains clothed while the female is naked.

Small spring-loaded clips used in sensation play.

Arousal from clowns or clown costumes.

Inflicting pain or discomfort on the male genitals.

A chastity device designed to prevent erections by enclosing the penis.

A ring worn around the base of the penis to restrict blood flow.

Arousal from taking cold showers.

A symbol of commitment in BDSM, often worn by Submissives.

A BDSM practice where a submissive wears a collar as a symbol of ownership.

A formal event where a Submissive is given a collar by their Dominant, symbolizing commitment.

Restricting a person’s movement by placing them in a confined space.

A mutual agreement where one person consents to not have their consent honored during a scene.

Sexual arousal from feces.

The practice of wearing a corset to gradually reduce waist size.

The use of corsets to shape and constrict the waist and torso.

The act of ejaculating inside a partner and the semen leaking out afterward.

Wearing clothing traditionally associated with the opposite gender.

A fetish for seeing objects or small creatures being crushed.

Emotional release that can occur during or after a BDSM scene.

A man who is aroused by his partner having sex with others.

A fetish where one partner (typically the husband) enjoys watching the other partner engage in sexual activity with someone else.

A man being aroused by his partner having sex with someone else.

A woman who is aroused by her partner having sex with others.

The female counterpart to cuckolding, where a woman derives pleasure from her partner’s sexual activities with others.

The practice of controlling when and how a partner ejaculates.

Injecting fluids into the body to create a swollen appearance.

A fetish for playing with semen.

Oral sex performed on a woman’s genitalia.

Using suction cups to create negative pressure on the skin.

Abbreviation for Dominance and submission.

Engaging in sexual activities in a completely darkened room.

Taking the penis deep into the throat during oral sex.

Taking the penis deep into the throat during oral sex.

A form of humiliation play where one partner is demeaned or insulted.

Involves actions or words meant to humiliate or degrade a partner.

Arousal from trees.

Restricting access to sexual pleasure or orgasm.

Arousal from dental procedures or instruments.

A fetish involving wearing and using diapers.

A harness worn around the waist or hips to hold a dildo.

Using explicit language to arouse a partner during sex.

The practice of training a submissive through rules and punishment.

A sexual position where one partner is on all fours while the other penetrates from behind.

A form of role-playing where a person is transformed into a doll-like state.

A form of consensual power exchange within a domestic setting.

A person who exercises control over another in a BDSM dynamic.

A dynamic where one partner exerts control over the other.

A female Dominant, often in a professional context.

The act of penetrating a person with two objects or body parts simultaneously.

Penetration of the vagina with two objects or body parts simultaneously.

Using duct tape as a restraint in bondage play.

Arousal from ears or ear-related activities.

BDSM activities that involve a higher risk.

Bringing oneself or a partner close to orgasm and then stopping to delay climax.

The use of tight rubber bands to restrict blood flow to genitals or limbs.

A device used to apply tight rubber bands, often for castration in animals.

The use of electric currents to stimulate the body.

Arousal from electricity or electrical stimulation.

The use of electrical stimulation for erotic purposes.

Arousal from vomiting or seeing others vomit.

The use of enemas for erotic stimulation.

The practice of injecting liquid into the rectum for cleansing or erotic purposes.

The practice of restricting oxygen for sexual arousal.

The use of hypnosis techniques for sexual arousal or control.

A massage that includes sexual arousal and stimulation.

Spanking administered for sexual pleasure.

Engaging in wrestling with erotic undertones or intentions.

Arousal from the thought of committing murder.

Arousal from exposing one’s body or sexual acts in public or semi-public settings.

A fetish for non-human or alien beings.

Arousal from people wearing eyeglasses.

A dominant partner sitting on a submissive partner’s face for sexual pleasure.

Slapping the face for erotic pleasure, often as part of humiliation play.

Ejaculating on a partner’s face.

A fetish involving feeding a partner to make them gain weight.

The expulsion of fluid from the female urethra during or before orgasm.

A strong sexual attraction to a specific object or body part.

The practice of inserting a piece of peeled ginger root into the anus or vagina.

A BDSM practice where a submissive gives money or gifts to a dominant partner.

Using heated cups to create suction on the skin for erotic purposes.

Flogging with a flogger that has been set on fire.

The use of flame or fire for erotic sensation.

The act of inserting a hand into the vagina or anus.

The act of whipping or striking with a flogger.

Using food as part of erotic play, often involving smearing or feeding.

Arousal from feet.

A fetish for feet and foot-related activities.

Using feet to stimulate a partner’s genitals.

Forcing a heterosexual partner to engage in homosexual activities.

Making someone eat or drink something as part of a power exchange.

Making a male partner dress and act in a traditionally feminine manner.

Causing a partner to orgasm against their will or beyond their comfort level.

Arousal from insects crawling on the body.

Role-playing as a French maid, often involving servitude and domestic tasks.

Arousal from rubbing against a non-consenting person in a crowded place.

Bondage where the person’s entire body is suspended off the ground.

Role-playing where participants dress as anthropomorphic animal characters.

Inserting objects or hands into the mouth to restrict speech or cause discomfort.

Devices used to restrict speech by placing something in the mouth.

Arousal from breast milk.

A sexual activity involving one person having sex with multiple partners in succession.

A type of male chastity device consisting of multiple rings that encircle the penis.

Arousal from dressing as or becoming another gender.

The practice of inflicting pain or discomfort on the genitals for pleasure.

Torture or infliction of pain on the genitals.

Arousal from elderly individuals.

A fetish for large or giant women.

Arousal from being dominated by a much larger woman.

A full-body suit often made of latex or leather, covering the entire body.

A hole in a wall or partition through which people engage in anonymous sexual activity.

The act of swallowing semen, often in large quantities.

The act of urinating on or being urinated on by a partner.

The act of continuously edging oneself to prolong sexual pleasure.

Role-playing based on the “Gor” series of novels by John Norman.

Sexual activity involving multiple partners.

Using the hair as a means of restraint.

Pulling the hair for erotic stimulation.

Arousal from hands or hand-related activities.

Manual stimulation of the penis.

Role-playing where one person has multiple submissives.

A fetish for high-heeled shoes.

Sexual arousal from blood.

A genre of Japanese erotic or pornographic manga and anime.

Arousal from high-heeled shoes.

A strict set of rules and behaviors that a submissive must follow.

A bondage position where a person’s hands and feet are tied together behind their back.

Dripping hot wax onto the body for sensation play.

A married woman who has sexual relationships with other men with her husband’s consent.

Using a person’s body as an ashtray for smoking.

Using a person as a piece of furniture, such as a chair or table.

Role-playing as a pony, including wearing tack and being trained.

The act of degrading or embarrassing a partner for sexual arousal.

Activities that involve degrading or embarrassing a partner for sexual gratification.

Combining hypnosis with bondage scenarios.

Using ice cubes or cold objects for erotic stimulation.

Using ice or cold objects in sexual play.

Activities involving striking the body for sexual gratification.

Role-playing where one partner takes on the role of an infant or small child.

Arousal from the idea of inflating body parts or the whole body.

Arousal from inflating body parts or the whole body.

Arousal from insects crawling on the body.

Sexual activity involving rubbing the penis between the thighs.

Role-playing an interrogation scenario with elements of power exchange.

A close, familiar, and usually affectionate or loving personal relationship with another person.

Dripping hot wax onto the body for sensation play.

A table designed to tilt and invert a person, often used in bondage.

Slang term for male masturbation.

Also known as Shibari, involves intricate rope patterns and ties.

Videos or audio recordings where one person instructs another on how to masturbate.

Arousal from having sex in front of mirrors.

A traditional Japanese style of rope bondage focusing on aesthetics and form.

Pressing one’s lips against another person or object.

Having a submissive kneel as a form of showing submission or respect.

The use of knives or blades for sensation play.

A fantasy involving being penetrated by an animal or mythical creature with a “knot”.

Arousal from lactating breasts or the act of breastfeeding.

Sexual attraction to latex clothing or materials.

Using a leash to control a submissive partner.

Sexual attraction to leather clothing or materials.

Boundaries set by a participant regarding what activities they are not comfortable with.

Using lingerie as a fetish or part of erotic play.

Using liquid latex to coat the body.

Role-playing involving elaborate scenarios and costumes.

A fetish for balloons, including inflating and popping them.

Arousal from the fantasy of giants or extremely large people.

A fetish for giants or giantess.

Deriving pleasure from one’s own pain or humiliation.

A person who derives pleasure from their own pain or humiliation.

Self-stimulation of the genitals for sexual pleasure.

Arousal from machines, such as cars or bicycles.

A fetish for medical procedures, uniforms, and equipment.

A fetish involving medical procedures and instruments.

Role-playing that involves medical scenarios and instruments.

Using medical restraints such as straitjackets or hospital cuffs in play.

A sexual attraction to music or musical instruments.

Sexual arousal from music.

Arousal from merman or mermaid characters.

A box with mirrors used for visual stimulation and reflection.

A sexual position where one partner lies on their back and the other lies on top.

A device placed in the mouth to restrict speech.

A fetish for mouth-related activities.

Wrapping a person tightly in materials like plastic wrap or bandages.

A casual social gathering for people interested in BDSM.

Arousal from dirt or filth.

Arousal from noses.

Arousal from navels or belly buttons.

Inflicting pain or discomfort on the navel.

Arousal from corpses.

The insertion of needles into the skin for erotic stimulation.

The process of discussing limits, desires, and boundaries before a scene.

Devices used to pinch and hold the nipples for erotic stimulation.

A device used to pull back the nostrils for humiliation or control.

Tying a person to an inanimate object, like a chair or a bed.

Treating a person as an object for sexual pleasure.

Sexual attraction to inanimate objects.

Arousal and romantic attraction to inanimate objects.

Arousal from licking a partner’s eyeball.

Arousal from biting or being bitten.

Arousal from teeth or dental work.

Arousal from smells and odors.

A fetish for urination or wetting oneself.

Stimulation of the genitals using the mouth.

The climax of sexual excitement, characterized by intense pleasure.

Practices that involve controlling when and how a person is allowed to orgasm.

Preventing a partner from reaching orgasm for extended periods.

A sexual encounter involving multiple partners.

A sexual practice where a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo.

A subset of animal play where participants role-play as domesticated animals.

Training a submissive to behave like an animal, such as a dog or cat.

Arousal from pictures or visual imagery.

Arousal from body piercings.

Arousal from plague doctor masks and outfits.

A Dominant who focuses on giving pleasure to their Submissive.

A Submissive who is primarily focused on providing pleasure to their Dominant.

A fetish for plush toys or stuffed animals.

Arousal from being inflated with air.

A fetish for feet.

Engaging in multiple consensual, loving relationships.

Equipment used in pony play, such as bridles, saddles, and hooves.

Arousal from wearing or seeing others wear pony gear.

A form of animal role-play where one person acts as a pony.

The transfer of control from one person to another in a BDSM context.

Bondage that creates a challenging or uncomfortable position for the Submissive.

Engaging in raw, animalistic behavior during sex.

Role-playing scenarios involving imprisonment and control.

Stimulation of the prostate gland for sexual pleasure.

The set of rules and behaviors agreed upon in a BDSM relationship.

Role-playing scenarios involving pretending to be dead.

Arousal from being cold or watching others be cold.

Humiliating a partner in a public or semi-public setting.

Disciplinary action taken to correct behavior in a BDSM relationship.

A form of pet play where one partner acts as a puppy.

The expulsion of air from the vagina, often making a sound.

Another term for face sitting, where a dominant partner sits on a submissive partner’s face.

Arousal from the idea of sinking in quicksand.

A brief sexual encounter.

Arousal from the fantasy of sinking in quicksand.

A controversial fetish involving racial themes and dynamics.

Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, an alternative to SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual).

Consensual role-playing scenarios that simulate non-consensual sex.

Oral stimulation of the anus.

Arousal from robots or robot-like behavior.

Temporarily switching Dominant and Submissive roles.

Acting out scenarios for sexual or psychological pleasure.

A fetish for planting objects or body parts in the ground.

A Submissive who enjoys being tied up in rope bondage.

Sexual attraction to rubber clothing or materials.

Bringing a person to the brink of orgasm and then denying full release.

Deriving pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation on others.

A person who derives pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation on others.

A pre-agreed word or phrase used to stop or pause a BDSM scene.

A guiding principle in BDSM emphasizing safety, sanity, and mutual consent.

Arousal from soiling or dirtying a partner.

A specific BDSM encounter or play session.

A sexual position commonly associated with lesbian sex, where partners interlock their legs and rub their vulvas together.

Tying oneself up without the aid of a partner.

Activities focused on stimulating the senses.

The removal or reduction of sensory input for erotic purposes.

Submissive acts that involve providing services to the Dominant.

A Dominant partner who takes on a submissive role to provide pleasure.

Acts of service performed by a Submissive for their Dominant.

Mechanical devices designed to provide sexual stimulation.

Objects or devices used to enhance sexual pleasure.

Sending sexually explicit messages or images via text message.

The process of discovering and trying new sexual activities or fantasies.

Erotic play that involves shaving hair from the body.

A style of Japanese rope bondage that emphasizes aesthetics and form.

Using electrical devices to deliver shocks for erotic stimulation.

Using silicone-based restraints and equipment.

Arousal from food.

A sexual position where two partners simultaneously perform oral sex on each other.

A Submissive who gives up significant control to a Dominant, often in a long-term arrangement.

A formal agreement outlining the terms and conditions of a BDSM relationship.

Covering the face with a body part or object to restrict breathing.

Arousal from being smothered or suffocated.

Activities that a person is hesitant about but may be willing to try under certain conditions.

Arousal from a partner who is asleep or unconscious.

The practice of inserting objects into the urethra for sexual pleasure.

Striking the buttocks with an open hand or implement.

A piece of furniture designed to position the Submissive for spanking or flogging.

Arousal from spitting on or being spit on by a partner.

A bar used to keep the legs or arms spread apart.

The act of sitting on or crushing another person for sexual pleasure.

The expulsion of fluid from the vagina during orgasm.

A cross-shaped piece of bondage furniture designed for restraining a person.

Arousal from body modifications like tattoos and piercings.

Using a dildo attached to a harness for sexual penetration.

Arousal from thoughts of hellfire and damnation.

A physical and emotional drop that can occur after an intense BDSM scene.

An altered state of consciousness experienced by Submissives during intense scenes.

A person who relinquishes control to a Dominant in a BDSM dynamic.

The act of hanging a person from ropes or chains.

Bondage that involves lifting the person off the ground.

A person who enjoys both Dominant and Submissive roles.

Arousal from witnessing or staging disasters.

The act of arousing and stimulating without providing full release.

A fetish for adults, particularly those who are physically mature.

Using hot or cold objects to stimulate the skin.

A device that uses electrical impulses for muscle stimulation and erotic sensation.

A genre of fantasy involving sexual encounters with tentacled creatures.

Sexual activity involving three people.

Impact play that involves heavy, deep sensations.

The use of tickling to create discomfort or pleasure.

Using fingers, feathers, or other objects to tickle a partner for erotic pleasure.

Arousal from being tickled or tickling a partner.

The person performing the action in a BDSM scene.

When a submissive tries to control the scene or give instructions.

A relationship dynamic where one partner gives complete control to the other.

The act of stepping on a person for sexual pleasure.

Arousal from wearing clothes traditionally associated with the opposite sex.

Sexual attraction to specific uniforms, such as military, police, or medical attire.

A fetish for urine or urination.

A bed that uses a vacuum to restrict movement and create pressure.

The act of inserting a hand into the vagina.

Non-kinky, mainstream sexual behavior.

Conventional sex that does not involve kink or BDSM.

An electrical device used to produce sparks and tingling sensations.

Training a submissive to speak in a certain way, such as using specific titles or tones.

A fetish for being eaten or eating someone else.

A fetish for being eaten or eating someone else.

Arousal from watching others engage in sexual activity.

A medical device used in sensation play to lightly prick the skin.

Sexual activities involving urine.

Using water to create discomfort or distress.

Erotic play involving urine.

The practice of dripping hot wax onto the skin for erotic stimulation.

Removing body hair using wax for aesthetic or erotic purposes.

A fetish involving getting wet or messy with substances like mud, paint, or food.

A tool used to strike the body for erotic pleasure.

Using a whip to strike the body for erotic pleasure.

A fetish for foreign or alien beings.

Sexual activities involving furries, or people dressed in animal costumes.

Your Kink Is Not Our Kink, but Your Kink is OK.

Arousal from jealousy or envy.

A fetish involving full-body suits that cover the entire body.

A BDSM technique where clothespins or clips are attached to the skin and then pulled off quickly.

A fetish for animals.